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A twin flame journey made up of a carpet of roses. It is a carpet made of roses, but as you all know, roses have thorns. In the world, there are always opposites. There will be good times and there will be bad times in the twin flame journey. That’s why you’re going to have beautiful things like the true twin flame union, as well as the hurtful ones such as the twin flame separation stage.
In this guide, you’re going to learn about one of the parties of the twin flame separation stage, and that is the chaser twin flame.
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What are chaser twin flames?
In the twin flame separation stage, there are two parties involved: the runner twin flame and the chaser twin flame.
The runner twin flame is the one who will start the twin flame separation stage. They will separate from the chaser twin flame physically, and there are even a few who will stop communicating with their twin flame. However, they can never really fully stop communicating, as twin flames have a special spiritual bond that is afforded to them even before they were physically conceived.
The chaser twin flame, on the other hand, is the twin flame that stays in the relationship. They are waiting for the runner twin flame to come back to the relationship. While waiting, they are having some of the most difficult times in anyone’s life. They’re dealing with emotional stress and anxiety, and they’re dealing with the spiritual pain of getting separated from their twin flame.
This is not to say that runner twin flames don’t feel any emotional stress or spiritual strain because they’re the ones who initiated that. It would be appropriate to say that both the runner twin flame and the chaser twin flame feel exactly the same thing, just on varying degrees based on the spiritual level of each twin. Some people attest that twin flames who run are the ones with the lower spiritual level, but that is not necessarily true. There are runner twin flames who have higher spiritual levels compared to their chaser twin flame counterparts.
However, since this is a guide for chaser twin flames, the article will focus on the chaser twin flame and what they can do. Because caring about chaser twin flames matter. They are going through some of the roughest times in their lives and they need all the help they can get. There are some chaser twin flames out there who are on the verge of committing suicide, and yet there are guides out there pretending to understand them but don’t even know the true concept of twin flames.
What do you do as the chaser twin flame?
- Primer
If you’re the chaser twin flame, the first thing you have to do is release all your pent-up emotion. Look for a quiet and safe place (or at least a place where you can be yourself), and just cry it out. If you have to you can lash out. Scream your lungs out, jump up and down, stomp on the ground. Express your grief and cry, even if you’re a guy. This misunderstanding about guys not being allowed to cry should already die.
Releasing all your pent-up emotions will enable your heart to stabilize. Emotions will cloud your judgment, and you need every ounce of judgment you have to overcome the ordeal called the twin flame separation stage. Once you go through the twin flame journey, there is a very big possibility of encountering the twin flame separation stage. If you’re not prepared enough, your preparation is going to get sharpened if you finish the twin flame preparation stage.
During this time, you have to be careful not to grieve too much. If you do, you’ll be stuck in the past and end up forfeiting your future. Cry, but don’t dry yourself out crying. You’re going to need your energy and everything else you could have used for crying for something else. And that something else is getting back up.
- Crossroads
You’re down in the dumps, but you aren’t forced to get back up, nor are you being asked to get back up. You only have to lie down and think. Don’t worry, the hardest part in all of this getting back upstage is only the thinking. You only have to lie down and think about the answer to one question, and only one. Keep lying down until you have your final answer to the question.
The question is: is your twin flame worth it?
That is the only question you have to answer. Of course, like any other question, you can expound on that. You can also ask if your twin flame is worth all the suffering that you experienced during the twin flame journey and even now as you are lying there, thinking about the answer to the question.
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Don’t listen to any other voice other than that of your own. You may have read other guides and articles, about how you must not give up on your twin flame or that it is impossible to give up on your twin flame. Forget about everything that you’ve read, because it will again cloud your judgment and chain you to ideals that are not your own. Even if you’re not used to deciding on things, you have to decide on the answer to the question yourself. At this point, you can pause your reading of this guide and decide on the final answer to the question that was posed earlier.
Have you found your final answer? That’s great! You’ve achieved some growth. Whatever your answer is, the fact that you have made a decision on such a big question by yourself can be considered quite the growth. You have entered a crossroad, and you decided which path to take. With all the energy that you’ve saved up from not crying anymore, you can then proceed to the next step, and that is taking action on what you have decided on.
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If your answer is yes, that your twin flame is worth it
- Accept the reality of having troubles
If your twin flame is worth all the pain and troubles, then it is assumed that you are not giving up on the relationship. One of the things that you have to be able to accept is that if you are in the twin flame path, that you are going to face troubles. Even the best twin flame relationships hit snags in their relationship sometimes. It happens even to the best of twin flames.
Because of that, you have to accept the reality that troubles are everywhere in your twin flame journey. Some troubles won’t lead to twin flame separation, but there are also those that sometimes crush the relationship. That’s why your decision to stay put in the relationship is very important. The acceptance of the situation is your way of making sure that you’ve decided that your twin flame is worth everything you’re going through right now.
- Continue calming down
At this point, you probably have not completely calmed down yet. If you already have, that’s very impressive. But the bigger probability is that you haven’t calmed down completely yet. You still have that annoyance or confusion. You’re confused as to why your twin flame left you if they loved you as much as you loved them, or annoyed why they even left you when you gave all you could for them.
Sometimes, there’s also guilt embedded in you as well. You might be asking yourself and thinking that you have done something wrong yourself. However, you have to remember to not be harsh on yourself. The twin flame separation stage comes at a time when you and your twin flame are both not ready to advance to the next stage, and that both of you still have a lot of things to do in order to make things right. It is a neutral transaction, and it may be that neither you nor your twin flame has done anything wrong.
You should realize that you have not done anything wrong, and neither did your twin flame. Both of you are victims of circumstances, and that both of you aren’t ready yet. It is the Universe that gave you those circumstances for both of you to grow. If you want to blame anyone, blame the Universe.
- Improve yourself
Improving yourself is the most common advice that people give to chaser twin flames. However, that is also the best advice you can give to twin flames, as it will enable them to move forward and have a satisfying life, no matter what your decision is about your twin flame. The advice to improve yourself is the advice that encompasses everything, and every twin flame coach or anyone who gives advice for that matter, all agree that the best way forward in any phase is to improve yourself.
However, you’re not going to be able to improve yourself if you’re not mentally, emotionally, and spiritually satisfied. In Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, safety needs come before belongingness and love needs. That’s why you have to settle your inner emotions first and feel secure in your person before you can even think about belongingness and love needs.
- Remain open
All while you’re improving yourself, you should let your twin flame know that you’re still open for them to come back to the relationship. Since you have decided to commit to the relationship no matter how long it takes, then you have to keep your word for it. You have to communicate your intent to your twin flame, and you have to make sure they get the message.
- Look for chances to regain the relationship
It is generally advised for chaser twin flames to wait before they make a move towards the runner twin flames. It’s because you never know what the annoyance threshold of your twin flame is, even if you’re very similar. There could be times when they just got home from a bad day of work. If you’re overeager, you might increase the distance between you and your twin flame.
You should give your twin flame space if they run away because that is one of the main points as to why they ran away. They separated from you because they want the space and the time to process everything that has happened in your relationship. They need the space in order to focus on themselves and be able to improve for them to get back to the relationship. You may think that they didn’t need to do that because you accept them, but they themselves feel that way so you should honor their decisions.
If you are a true twin flame, you don’t cut away any chance for your twin flame’s improvement. You should even encourage any improvement by your twin flame because it is beneficial for both of you. Any improvement your twin flame gets is a step towards the twin flame reunion and towards the ending of the twin flame separation stage. Any improvement you both get is a step forward towards true twin flame union.
However, if you get subtle signs from your twin flame that they want to get back together, like after experiencing the twin flame runner awakening, or the Universe drops hints that show you that it’s a good time to make a move, then you shouldn’t dilly dally any longer as well. You’ve been decisive when you decided that you want to retain the relationship, you should still be decisive if you want to make a move.
- Giving up
Perhaps you’ve decided that your twin flame is not a person who is worth fighting for. You’ve decided by yourself that your twin flame is not worth all the trouble, pain, and suffering you encounter during the twin flame journey. You believe that the good times that your twin flame brought to you don’t outweigh the bad times that you’ve been through and that you’ll continue to get those bad times. Perhaps it's time to drop the ball and give up.
You shouldn’t let anybody decide for you here. Don’t listen to others if they say don’t give up, or that you’ll regret your decision. If you do regret your decision later on, own up to your decision. At least you don’t have anyone else to blame but yourself. You stood firm, so be proud that you learned a lesson in standing for what you think is right.
You don’t have to worry about whether your twin flame will come back to you or not. If you and your twin flame are meant to be together, the Universe will find a way for the two of you to be united. There’s no thinking about what will happen in the future unless your thinking is about general preparations. Don’t think about events that might not happen. Cross the bridge when you get there.
As the quote says, change is the only permanent thing in this world, and that quote is well-founded. You never know what happens in the world because there is always change. At the end of the day, you only know what will happen when it happens. There will be possibilities that you haven’t thought of but will act out on its own.
An example of the above situation is when your runner twin flame gets a change of heart. He/she goes back to you after you have decided to give up and not give chase to them. Perhaps there is a great change in them. Your decision to give up on them doesn’t have to be set in stone. You can still change your mind right then and there and have a satisfying relationship with them.
If you're interested to know the possibility of a twin flame giving up, you can read this Twin Flame chaser giving up article.
In whatever you do, be mindful of the well-being of others, while you become happy and satisfied yourself.
Summary
As the chaser twin flame, you’re put in a very tough spot. Express everything you need to express, pour out all your emotions and then calm down. Continue the calming down process until you cool down enough to make a sound judgment. Then, decide whether or not your twin flame is worth fighting for. Base your actions depending on the decision that you came up with.
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Karen Hyman
Karen is a Psychic Medium, a Professional Astrologer, a Spiritual Advisor, and a Life Coach who has been in this career for 19+ years. She specializes in numerology, tarot and oracle cards, twin flames, love & relationships, zodiac, horoscope, dreams interpretation, and astrology. She aims to provide comfort and assurance using her abilities to offer answers to those who seek professional guidance. Read More About Karen Here.
